The Worst Dating Mistakes Ever

By Francis Githinji

Sometimes they happen unconsciously or knowingly and they are the worst dating mistakes. They can make a potential mate to take flight at the earliest opportunity. The tongue is lethal, opening your heart too soon gives you away as you give too much personal information and worst of all too soon. The best policy has always been honesty, however honesty given in excess especially as far as personal information is concerned spoils a date. Possible connections are also spoiled. It leaves both of you feeling awkward when you are too fast in letting the cat out of the bag through too much information. Both parties feel the urgency to leave the scene because of the unease that has settled in. Personal information that is deep is best kept under lock and key to allow the other person a time span of building a relationship that is meaningful to you.

Failing to understand and take people for who they are and instead seeing them for whom you actually wanted them to be. Maybe it has ever happened to you. You start dating someone and you start thinking he or she would be perfect if only she or he got their act and life together, made more money, did away with addiction, old relationships, parents and the list goes on and on. One of the worst dating mistakes is attempting to change a person's image into an image that suits your idea of perfection. It never ends well. No one needs you to be an agent of change. A partner who is willing to change will be the one to initiate the change and tell you the areas they are working on. But this happens once you are settled in a relationship that is full of love and fulfillment. Loving people as they are is usually better.

In order for your life to be complete and happy, you only need to be in a relationship. It is among the worst dating mistakes committed by majority of people who are single. Hundreds of single people are searching far and wide for a relationship. It is a general feeling among the singles who believe a fulfilling and happy life is only possible within the precincts of a relationship. In the meantime, they are denying themselves the happiness and fulfillment of life as it escapes and away it slips. As a young person, learn to love yourself and create a life that is true and fulfilling, that is the only way you will be able to attract love. Once inside a loving relationship, it will come to your realization that: though love is very important, it isn't the one item that will complete you, satisfy you or fulfill you.

Taking a person wrongly for being who they were from the beginning. It is one of the many dating mistakes. Many people have been into this one. Dating starts on a high note and money is not important then. But if the person later on does not manage to raise or have enough money you are very angry with them. You have got down into a relationship, invested heavily emotionally in it only for the person to tell you he or she is not interested in a relationship that is committing, the person is only interested in dating.

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Online dating: the most important step – the first letter.

By Oksana Boichenko

So as you know, online dating usually based on exchanging letters. So what you gonna do if you seem to find the Russian bride of your dream? How will you make her interested in you? I want to say you – if you want to grab someone's attention, you should write a first letter, a perfect first letter. There are some key points you should keep in mind while writing a letter. So that's what I'm going to tell you.

At the very beginning I should tell you that the first letter makes the first impression that will most certainly affect your future correspondence. So, you should make your first letter positive, bright and exciting.

As I've witnessed a lot of types of correspondence and got the full image of how it should be, I'll give you my own tips. And I wish you success!

Instructions:

• Tip # 1: Be friendly and polite. It's utter important to show respect to the lady, so you should use friendly and polite words in your letter. I also don't advise you to use nicknames and phrases like: "Hey baby" or "My hot girl" in your very first introductory letter, it's better to make a pleasant compliment instead. Don't worry if you really like using these words you can do it a bit later. Just wait till the lady opens up for you.

• Tip # 2: Keep your tone upbeat. Your letter should reflect your great mood and optimism. If you tell her about your difficulties, problems and complaints in your very first letter, it will definitely scare any girl. Show her that you are a happy and cheerful person. You should be positive is like a magnet. This is the example how one man began his letter: "To be quite honest, I have been putting this off as long as possible. I have some friends who applied to dating web-sites and have had some awful experience." This begs to ask, "what are you doing here?" And compare that with this introductory letter: "I've heard online dating is a great way to meet awesome people and that's why I want to meet you." Which one of these letter intros is more attractive? The one who wants to date "losers" or the one that wants to date "winners"? Psychologically everyone wants to be a winner. Consequently in your very first letter, avoid everything negative - be positive.

• Tip # 3: Share information: You can share the information about yourself that you think others will find interesting. Check her profile, find out about her interests. It will be great if she finds out that you have so much in common.

• Tip # 4: Tell the person who you are and what you are about. Don't speak about your disadvantages in your introduction letter. In the contrary you should tell only positive things about yourself, but it's very important to know where to stop, otherwise your story will look like a boasting and you won't get good results. Here are some phrases that will help you to describe you in a best way:

- My best friend describes me as...
- I'm happiest when I'm...
- Here's what you'd find if you looked around my place...
- A great day in my life would include...
- The last great book I read was...
- The last great movie I saw in a cinema was...
- My favorite season is...
- The color I wear most is...
- If you asked me what I'm wearing, I'd say...
- My favorite on-screen love scene is...
- The music I like most is...
- This morning in my car I was listening to...
- Last Saturday night I...
- The last vacation I went on was...
- The most adventurous thing I've ever done was...
- I'm happiest when I'm with someone who...

• Tip # 5: Include information about your age, education and career. According to statistics about 80% of ladies are mostly interested in these three things.

• Tip # 6: You can tell about pets, favourite books, hobbies, children or anything else that might reveal a shared interest with in your new friend.

• Tip # 7: Avoid talking about controversial topics. Not in a first letter. Debates and argues can be a very interesting thing to share in your letters, but only if you've already become closer to each other.

• Tip # 8: Take care not to overwhelm the reader with too much information. Revealing a little bit at a time will pique the reader's interest. Remember that there must be a little secret not only in a lady but in a man as well. You'll reach great results if you make your lady wait for the next chapter of your story impatiently.

• Tip # 9: Ask her questions so she can respond. Don't speak just about yourself in your letter. If you do, your letter won't help you at all. You should remember that it's very important to have a dialog instead of monologue. So you should ask question and answer hers in return.

• Tip # 10: Let your personality show by your choice of words and the descriptions you use. Be descriptive – tell about the things the inspire you, excite you etc.

Tips & Warnings.

• Remember not to share too much too soon. You should wait until she knows you before you reveal your family secrets and problems.

• Use careful judgment when deciding how much information to share with a stranger. You should be always careful when it comes to revealing personal information.

So, that will do for the tips. I hope they'll be useful for you and you find your Russian bride and conquer her by your sweet and kind letters!

Oksana Boichenko, OksanaLove, Inc., http://www.oksanalove.com The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. You can find your second half – just visit our dating site and meet your Russian bride among the thousands of beautiful Russian women.

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